Girls – you received the honor of being asked to be a bridesmaid and accepted. Congrats! Now what?
Through the road of the engagement and up to the wedding day, there are lots of amazing moments. But sometimes, girls can be girls and things may not turn out exactly as one may have planned. It is important for women who accept the role as a bridesmaid to understand the responsibilities they are about to undertake. However, it is also important for brides to take considerations of what they’re asking of their bridesmaids.
Below is a list of some of tanaRi’s best tips for brides & bridesmaids as a guide to take on the road to a happy wedding experience for all!
Be picky when choosing your bridesmaids: it’s easy for one to feel guilted into asking more people than you anticipated (old friends, family of the fiancé…) but may not be a part of your & your future husband’s current lifestyle. Ultimately, you want to pick those that will be a staple in your future life and that you could not imagine your day without.
Let your bridemaid(s) have some creative input/independence: It is only fair that the bride makes the final decisions when it comes to all things for the wedding day – it is for her, after all. But sometimes, it’s nice to have your closest people provide input on some of the details. For example, let them choose their hairstyle and/or accessories for the wedding day – it’s a small request that will make everyone happy when looking at the pictures later on! Another option is to have the bridemaids (only who are interested!) come with you when tasting wines & desserts or looking at floral arrangements. An outsider perspective always helps!
Consider the costs: the cost a bridesmaid incurs for a wedding can be anywhere from $1,000 to $5,000+ (inclusive of all activities.) There will be times that certain things are best for the group, but there are always different ways to attempt to curb costs. This can include recommending cheaper bridesmaids dresses, doing a local bachelorette party or offering to pay for additional bridesmaids activities (ie. treat them to lunch or a mani/pedi day – it will show the bridesmaids your appreciation.)
Smile & be friendly: on the wedding day, it’s all eyes on the bride & bridesmaids. You’ll be spending hours taking photos and meeting new people over the course of the day or night. It’s important to keep an optimistic attitude as it will be a long day (and you want to look your best in the photos!)
Enjoy fun non-wedding activities with the bride-to-be: while their brain will be on wedding overload, she’ll appreciate the initiative to have a nice night out to dinner or a low-key movie hang out with her bridesmaid(s). It will give her mind a brief rest and also reinforce why she chose you as her bridesmaid(s)!
Do your best NOT to complain: as a bridesmaid, it’s easy to stress about all that one may endure financially & emotionally towards the bridal day. However, you did sign up to deal with all that is encompassing of this life-changing event – so keep your negative chat to a minimum!
To everyone – HAVE FUN! This is a once-in-a-lifetime experience for everyone involved – don’t let the small details get in the way of a beautiful and memorable day! For more advice & tips, contact us at our website!
[Image 1 via Maria Vicencio]
[Image 2 via Wedding Window]
[Image 3 via Strictly Weddings]